attachment

"your attachment to certain things, certain pathways, certain outcomes, causes pain.  it impedes your flow."

millie shows me people floating in a river.  some are floating along with the current, but most have their hands stuck to something on the bank -- a house, a car, another person, or something more abstract.  as the current pulls against them, their arms stretch out like a cartoon.  it looks funny, but it isn't.  it is painful to be pulled that way.  eventually the substance (stubbornness?) that sticks them to the things on the bank will fail, but it won't part gently, it will rip, leaving chunks of them behind with the thing they were hanging on to.

"the universe will give you what you need, but not necessarily what you THINK you need.  if you learn to let go, to go with the flow, life becomes easier, more joyful, less painful.  life *is* flow.


let go.  trust that you will float.  let go of the need for control.  trust that you will have what you need.  let go of the attachment to specific things, ways to accomplish things, outcomes.  trust.  it is better to let go voluntarily than to find out the hard way just how strong this current is."

what about planning for the future?  isn't that important?

"as long as your future plans are fluid, able to adapt to and change with any change in the flow, future planning is a good thing.  it is only when the construction of those plans and dreams becomes rigid and inflexible that they pose a danger."

any advice for us on that?

"hold everything loosely.  your possessions, your loved ones, your dreams.  hold them as if they were baby birds that could be crushed with too much pressure.  hold them as though you are ready to let them go."

thank you, millie.

love yourself

I don't know about you, but my response to millie's messages has been two-fold.  first, wow, what an amazing being she is, with such valuable information to share and how true it feels when I hear it.  and second, wow, what a horrible person I am, full of failings and shortcomings that she highlights almost daily.

"push your envelope.  reach for more, be willing to examine your deepest, darkest places and shine your light into them.  but the music that carries my lyrics, the ever-present meta-message to my communications, is LOVE YOURSELF.


love is the answer.  love is the key.  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love  love love love love love love love love .


in order to do this work, in order to fully express who you are, you must be kind and gentle and respectful and reverent with you.  you must love yourself so that you can show others how to love."

I can tell you that millie delivers her messages with love, in love, with no trace of judgment or hint of impatience.  she embodies love.

thank you millie, we love you.

conflict

"conflict is a habit.  in many cases you can avoid it by deconstructing your own position.  chances are good that your position contains a variety of judgments.  'they should do this.'  'they shouldn't have done that.'  'if they had/hadn't [fill in the blank] then this wouldn't have happened.'


the problem with conflict is it blinds you to the connection, the love, the common purpose.


conflict is harder to avoid when you are reacting in the moment, but it is possible.  take time, look inside yourself.  how much of the conflict is yours alone?  if you did not carry that conflict forward, if you did not provide it with a safe and comfortable place to rest, would it go away?


sometimes the answer is no.  sometimes the safe and comfortable place lies with the other person.  but you can let go of your part.  you can give it  less of a foothold.  you can release your negative feelings and absolve yourself of any responsibility for maintaining the conflict.


what would happen in the world if you stopped responding when someone hands you a conflict?  if you refused to play your part?"

millie sent me this message as I was in the midst of dealing with my own unpleasant feelings about what someone did not do that I considered to be their responsibility, in fact I pay them to do it.  I am not proud to report that my anger over the situation was completely my responsibility.  true, they were supposed to do it.  true, they didn't.  but I exaggerated the negative effect of their failure to do it, in order to fuel my anger, to provide my feelings of conflict a 'safe, comfortable' place to sit.  I am right about the facts, but my choices around that (being angry and sending negative energy to others) can't be construed as 'right.'

"right does not matter.  humans are so caught up in who is 'right.'  right is relative to the situation, not an abstract or absolute truth."

so our legal system has it all wrong, huh?


"there is no absolute 'right' that can be applied from outside a particular situation or interaction between people.  the 'right' for that situation or interaction is dependent on the people involved.  on the energy involved.


if someone agreed to do something and they are not doing it, why aren't they doing it?  is it possible for them to do it?  do they want to do it?  if they are abandoning a promise or agreement, there is always a reason.  your judgment of the 'rightness' of their reason is what causes the conflict.  or your disregard of the possibility that they may have a reason at all.


every interaction is a gift.  every interaction is a relationship.  rather than looking for ways to make another wrong, look for *your* gift in the situation.  how will this help you on your soul path?  what is your lesson?"

thank you, millie.

body & soul

"aspiring to true and authentic life does not mean that you leave your body behind in pursuit of the spirit.  the body is of the earth and connected to the physical.  honor the body, including the emotions, reactions and physical needs that come with having a body.  


many humans right now are focusing exclusively on the spirit, to the exclusion of their physical selves and their health and wellbeing.  as spirit in body, you will reach the highest harmony with yourself if you honor the physical as well as the spiritual.  balance between the two can be achieved by focusing your attention on the balance point.  


you will be spirit-only again.  there is no hurry.  you can accomplish things in-body that cannot be done as spirit-only.  savor this experience.  treasure it.  enjoy the love, the joy and the giddiness as you honor the anger, the frustration and the sadness.  these in-body experiences serve you.  you need them.


connect with the earth through your physical form.  honor the physical all around you.  invite spirit to join you here, in your body, on the earth.  embrace the duality that is your unique form at this time in this place.  enjoy."

thank you, millie.

your authentic self

hi mil, what's the topic for today?

"mindfullness.  awareness.  living your authentic life as your authentic self."

millie shows me a parade of human figures walking single-file, holding balloons that float above their heads.  the balloons are also human-shaped.  the walking figures seem heavy, empty, robotic.  the balloons are lighter than air, with painted smiles, but also seem empty.

"you are afraid to fully inhabit your body, your life.  many of you are simply skimming the surface of your life, afraid of the puzzle that is you, that you have come here to solve."

I have a strong sense that, while we normally trudge slowly up the steep steep slope of self-enlightenment, millie is here to build us a stairway.


"an escalator, if you let me."  (said with no trace of ego)

"you resist fully inhabiting yourself for the same reason you don't clean out the garage, or the basement, or the attic.  it looks like hard work.  it's a little dark and scary.  you might find something that upsets you.  you don't know how to start.  you aren't sure what to do with all that stuff.


it will be easier than you think.  when you hold your soul 'stuff' up to the light, it transforms.  you don't need to decide whether to keep it, toss it, give it away -- it's yours.  you don't need to re-box it and re-store it, it has changed into something much lighter, something that helps you rather than weighing you down.  it becomes an asset.  a treasure.


the best thing you can do for yourself is look at your 'stuff.'  make room for you inside your life. transform the dark corners into livable space.  climb into your body and engage with life.  move through your life with purpose and intention.  really feel what it's like to be you.  you are beautiful and wonderful and cool.  treat yourself, and every other being on the planet, with reverence and love."

yowza, millie.  if you're not careful, people are going to start making little gold figurines of you and praying to them!

raise your vibration

today's message is closely related to the love message.  it had the same kind of tenor to it, I believe millie is trying to clarify and expand on the information.

she shows me a vivid picture of a human with slots in their shoulders, and hanging from the slots are VERY heavy boxes of all sizes, each with a custom metal holder that fits precisely into the slots on the shoulders.

this is a complex message about our baggage.  we have widely varied and customized baggage.  each of us carries our own particular brand/ style/ type/ amount of baggage, and *we* are the ones who customize it.  we choose it carefully and we make sure that it is exactly *our* kind of baggage, the kind that fits into our particular slots.  and man-o-man is it ever heavy.

she shows me the human divesting themselves of the many, many boxes and containers.  the human is becoming lighter and lighter, almost floating when the baggage has all been set down.  that seems fairly straightforward.

"set down your baggage!  you don't need it.  you don't need to examine it, you don't even need to know what it is, just set it down and walk away.


raise your vibration, let the heavy stuff go.  filter everything through love goggles, through fun glasses.  *look* for laughter!  feel how that changes your vibration.  it is possible to do this all the time.  it just takes practice.


what makes you happy?  it is individual.  what is fun for me (hunting small furry animals and laying in the sun) may not be fun for you.  find your own happiness.  


humans usually look at the dark side of things and match their vibration to it.  you are trained to do that.  it feels right because it is so habitual.  deeply ingrained.


as you become more aware, as you begin to hear your spirit, it doesn't feel good to lower  your vibration.  it makes you uncomfortable.  you don't have to do it, just because you always have.  you don't have to do it because the ones you love do it.


even though there is sadness and strife in the world, you don't have to match it to care about it.  you can maintain your vibration, which ultimately will be healing for the world.


vibrate at *you.*  vibrate at fun and laughter and enthusiasm and love.  share your vibration with the world.  let it encourage others to do the same.  


heal yourself, heal the world."

love, part 2

when I walked in the clinic today, millie was sitting in a sun spot on my desk, waiting.


"you are doing great.  you understand this better than you think.  relax into this feeling."

when I feel I am not 'getting' it, I tend to freeze up.  it's one of my things.  millie lay down in the sun on my desk and waited for me to un-clench.  we sat in silence until my thoughts wandered to how nice the sun felt on my arm.  then she spoke

"that is the feeling.  without the physical warmth, of course, but feel the energy, the vibration of the sun.  it is everywhere, in the air, in your body, in my body.  you don't have to search for it, it is just there.  that's how the love field is."

millie moved to the window, which always gives me some hope that I may be close to 'getting' it.  I am making this harder for myself than it needs to be.  as I sat here in the sunshine, I wondered, what is the difference between sunshine and love?

"you do not have to 'deserve' sunshine, you just accept that it is there, equally and everywhere, for everyone.  you enjoy it, you use it, you might take it for granted, but you are always aware of its presence.  love is the same.  you don't need to deserve it, it just is.  


enjoy the love, just as you do the sunshine.  stretch out in it, revel in it, soak it up.  it is there for you, for everyone.  there is no need to earn it, no need to worry, no sense in wondering whether you deserve it.  just enjoy it, feel it just by turning your thoughts to it.  it is freely available everywhere, to everyone. 


for now, practice thinking of the sunshine as love.  experiment with the idea that you don't have to do anything or be anything to be worthy of all the love in the universe.    


breathe it in, soak it up."


thanks, millie.