more of millie's answer to the question about relationships and change.
"you are the only one who can meet your needs. if someone else appears to be meeting your needs, it is because your needs intersect.
love without expectation. walk your path in love and be confident that you can meet your own needs.
expecting others to do a certain thing, act a certain way, be or think a certain way is a pathway to pain. expectations are of the dark, not of the light.
know that each interaction with another is an expression of a gift, an offer of love. let that be your river, a river of gifts and love. float and be free.
when you run into an expectation that someone has thrown in your path, give what you are willing, love if you are able, float through or fly over the expectation as if it isn't really there, because it isn't.
there is no power in the expectations of others apart from what you give them."
thank you, millie.
Monday, February 1, 2010
Sunday, January 31, 2010
change
a friend asked me today what millie thought about change. specifically, change that accompanies a shift in vibrational energy between people. this is millie's response.
"it is natural to seek out others who share your vibration. it feels good. it makes it easy to share physical and energetic space and experiences. it makes us feel connected, all of us, animals too.
sometimes two beings go on sharing a similar vibration for a lifetime. more often, though, one or both of them shift so that they are no longer so well-aligned. this is normal too. growth and change are normal.
perhaps you have noticed how it feels to try to change your vibration to match another. it is uncomfortable. it is not sustainable. at some point, it becomes obvious that your vibrations are too far apart to be comfortable together. this can cause emotional pain. particularly when this is someone you love.
it is possible to be with people of different vibrations, as long as you maintain your own. the discomfort and pain come when you try to shift your own vibration to match another, if the difference is too great. your energy is your own. when you try to change the way it feels, it is confusing and unpleasant.
it is most comfortable to allow others permission to vibrate where they do. to be who they are. where they are. on their own path. it is impossible to change someone else's vibration, but vibrating at your own true energy gives others permission to do the same.
not all relationships are meant to be life long. people flow into and out of each other's lives according to their higher plans. some people are in your life for the lesson they bring you. learn it and move on. change does not have any bearing on love. it doesn't erase love, or make it invalid. if you love someone and it is painful to be around them, changing the relationship, moving on, going with the flow does not negate the love. even if the love itself changes, that doesn't erase the love that was.
remember the lessons: live from your heart. live in the moment. go with the flow. be true to yourself. trust."
thank you, millie.
"it is natural to seek out others who share your vibration. it feels good. it makes it easy to share physical and energetic space and experiences. it makes us feel connected, all of us, animals too.
sometimes two beings go on sharing a similar vibration for a lifetime. more often, though, one or both of them shift so that they are no longer so well-aligned. this is normal too. growth and change are normal.
perhaps you have noticed how it feels to try to change your vibration to match another. it is uncomfortable. it is not sustainable. at some point, it becomes obvious that your vibrations are too far apart to be comfortable together. this can cause emotional pain. particularly when this is someone you love.
it is possible to be with people of different vibrations, as long as you maintain your own. the discomfort and pain come when you try to shift your own vibration to match another, if the difference is too great. your energy is your own. when you try to change the way it feels, it is confusing and unpleasant.
it is most comfortable to allow others permission to vibrate where they do. to be who they are. where they are. on their own path. it is impossible to change someone else's vibration, but vibrating at your own true energy gives others permission to do the same.
not all relationships are meant to be life long. people flow into and out of each other's lives according to their higher plans. some people are in your life for the lesson they bring you. learn it and move on. change does not have any bearing on love. it doesn't erase love, or make it invalid. if you love someone and it is painful to be around them, changing the relationship, moving on, going with the flow does not negate the love. even if the love itself changes, that doesn't erase the love that was.
remember the lessons: live from your heart. live in the moment. go with the flow. be true to yourself. trust."
thank you, millie.
Saturday, January 30, 2010
trust
millie's brain to my fingers.
"go with the flow. trust that everything happens exactly as it should. trust that you had a plan for this life and that you are following it. just trust.
give yourself some credit! know that you are finding or following your soul purpose. know that you are exactly where you are supposed to be on your path. give yourself permission to be. to be you. to be where you are. to be going where you're going.
do what you do. love what you do. do what you love.
let go of the need for control. control is a fantasy. there is no. such. thing. you have free will and so does every other being on the planet. that introduces more variables than you could ever imagine into every moment. trying to control your life is like trying to control the weather. it is laughable to think you can control anything, any situation, any action.
the need for control, the effort to achieve the impossible, causes a lot of strife in the world.
let it go."
she sends me a feeling like that song "don't worry, be happy."
millie, you are a treasure. I am so honored to know you.
"go with the flow. trust that everything happens exactly as it should. trust that you had a plan for this life and that you are following it. just trust.
give yourself some credit! know that you are finding or following your soul purpose. know that you are exactly where you are supposed to be on your path. give yourself permission to be. to be you. to be where you are. to be going where you're going.
do what you do. love what you do. do what you love.
let go of the need for control. control is a fantasy. there is no. such. thing. you have free will and so does every other being on the planet. that introduces more variables than you could ever imagine into every moment. trying to control your life is like trying to control the weather. it is laughable to think you can control anything, any situation, any action.
the need for control, the effort to achieve the impossible, causes a lot of strife in the world.
let it go."
she sends me a feeling like that song "don't worry, be happy."
millie, you are a treasure. I am so honored to know you.
Friday, January 29, 2010
fear
it is somewhat intimidating to have a very eager cat waiting for me every morning with a new message for the blog. probably this is one of the things I am supposed to learn from this... how to trust what I'm getting, that I don't need absolute silence and calm in order to do this, that I'm hearing her correctly under pressure and just write it. I have a lot on my plate today, but millie is not in the mood to wait.
"much of what you do is motivated or shaped by fear. fear of social consequences for doing or saying something that other humans might not agree with. fear of ostracism, of not fitting in. fear of persecution or harm for speaking truth. many humans have died for speaking truth. many humans have killed others for their ideas. this fear is valid and real. it is okay to feel fear.
this is a special time. you can choose not to base your decisions in fear. you can push through the fear and be yourself in spite of it. many of you are learning this, or completing your learning of it, in this lifetime.
choose love. choose the opposite of fear in every moment, every decision, with every choice you make. be aware of your fear, make friends with it. know it. understand when it is pushing you and recognize that feeling. and be kind to yourself when you move because of the push. experiment with the idea that fear is not the end of everything, and the end of everything does not lie behind the fear."
wow, that sounds like a heck of an experiment.
thanks, millie.
"much of what you do is motivated or shaped by fear. fear of social consequences for doing or saying something that other humans might not agree with. fear of ostracism, of not fitting in. fear of persecution or harm for speaking truth. many humans have died for speaking truth. many humans have killed others for their ideas. this fear is valid and real. it is okay to feel fear.
this is a special time. you can choose not to base your decisions in fear. you can push through the fear and be yourself in spite of it. many of you are learning this, or completing your learning of it, in this lifetime.
choose love. choose the opposite of fear in every moment, every decision, with every choice you make. be aware of your fear, make friends with it. know it. understand when it is pushing you and recognize that feeling. and be kind to yourself when you move because of the push. experiment with the idea that fear is not the end of everything, and the end of everything does not lie behind the fear."
wow, that sounds like a heck of an experiment.
thanks, millie.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
speak your truth
when I entered the building today, millie was waiting for me. she is sitting on my desk purring as I type around her.
"truth is relative. what is true for some is not true for all, and that is okay. your job is to speak your own truth, whether or not it is true in that moment for anyone else. your higher self is full of wisdom and you can access that. when someone says something that seems true to you, how do you feel that? how do you know it seems true? does it vibrate a certain way in your body? does it cause you to pause and think about it? does it make you breathe a different way?
listen to yourself, pay attention to the signs your body gives you that mean you are on the right track. the more you listen, the more you will hear. the more you hear, the more complete your picture of YOUR truth becomes for you.
this is important. it. is. okay. to. speak. your. truth. in fact, it is imperative."
when I reached that last point, millie left my desk and went to sit in the window. she says that is enough for now. she emphasizes the importance of this message.
on a personal note, this is something I've been thinking about, struggling with for a while now. worrying about what others think about what I believe kind of stresses me out. I really like the idea of everyone having their *own* truth, and that that is the way it is supposed to be. I'm going to live with that for awhile and see how it shifts things for me.
thank you, millie cat.
"truth is relative. what is true for some is not true for all, and that is okay. your job is to speak your own truth, whether or not it is true in that moment for anyone else. your higher self is full of wisdom and you can access that. when someone says something that seems true to you, how do you feel that? how do you know it seems true? does it vibrate a certain way in your body? does it cause you to pause and think about it? does it make you breathe a different way?
listen to yourself, pay attention to the signs your body gives you that mean you are on the right track. the more you listen, the more you will hear. the more you hear, the more complete your picture of YOUR truth becomes for you.
this is important. it. is. okay. to. speak. your. truth. in fact, it is imperative."
when I reached that last point, millie left my desk and went to sit in the window. she says that is enough for now. she emphasizes the importance of this message.
on a personal note, this is something I've been thinking about, struggling with for a while now. worrying about what others think about what I believe kind of stresses me out. I really like the idea of everyone having their *own* truth, and that that is the way it is supposed to be. I'm going to live with that for awhile and see how it shifts things for me.
thank you, millie cat.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
how we learned to listen to millie
millie came to stay at the office, which suited her and we love having her here. her role has changed slightly over the years. at first, she was a greeter. she would come out and say hi to almost everyone who walked through the door. she would come into the exam room with some patients, talking up a storm and seemingly very insistent about telling us something.
being human, and rather caught up in our human-ness, we weren't very good about listening to her when she had something to say. in fact, it's a little embarrassing to look back on how dismissive we were when she offered her input. but one case changed all of that.
"I began to pay attention to the health of the animals who come here for diagnosis and treatment. I found that I frequently know what is wrong with them before my colleagues do.
one day, a woman came in with a very sick dog. the woman was extremely upset, another doctor had refused to run diagnostic tests that she requested, and was arrogant about and dismissive of her gut feeling about what was wrong with her dog.
our doctor examined the dog and was thinking the worst, cancer. the dog was very, very sick. but I knew it wasn't cancer, and I knew how that diagnosis would crush the woman, so I clawed at the exam room door until they let me in. I walked on the dog, so I could touch him with my paws and make sure that I was right before I said anything. then I turned to the doctor and told her it wasn't as bad as she thought."
this was a few years ago, before I started really trying to 'hear' millie at work. back then, when we knew millie had something to say we asked her questions and got yes or no answers via muscle testing. my talent for 'hearing' her came into play through knowing or guessing which questions to ask. here is how that conversation went:
millie, do you have something to say? (this is how we start every muscle-testing conversation with her, and it is a standing joke in the office now, as she makes it very clear when she has something to tell us.)
"yes."
is it about this dog?
"yes."
does he have cancer?
"no."
really!?!?
"no."
is he very sick?
"yes." (it was obvious that he was, but with muscle testing it's a good idea to throw in questions that you know the answers to along with the questions that you are looking for the answers to, in order to check to make sure you are getting accurate responses.)
is what he has treatable?
"yes."
is he going to die?
"no."
do we need to refer him for further diagnostics?
"yes."
millie was very sure that this dog did not have cancer and that what he had was treatable. we had played this kind of 20-questions game with millie before about patients that she indicated she had information about, but the difference with this case is that we took a leap and actually *told* the client that our cat said her dog could be treated.
wow. does that sound crazy, or what?
we believed, but hadn't actually discussed how or why we believed, that millie really did have a special talent when it came to understanding the inner workings of our patients.
we believed, but hadn't articulated, that we were getting good information when we asked millie questions.
without really thinking it through, or we probably never would have done it, we told this client that millie said her dog was going to be okay. both the doctor and I had our doubts about that. did I mention that this dog was really, really sick? the client was very relieved to hear what millie thought, even though we qualified it with 'we could be wrong's and 'this isn't scientifically sound's. she was in a much better frame of mind when she left the office than when she had arrived.
when we got the first referral report from the specialists, it said the xrays showed a large mass in the dog's lung. we were sure that confirmed our suspicion of cancer. the specialist thought so too, and they scheduled a surgery to biopsy the mass.
when we got the next referral report, it said the dog had a fungal infection, the mass had been removed successfully and he should be fine with long-term antibiotic therapy.
wow.
millie is sitting in front of me as I type this (good thing I've learned to type without looking) and she is purring.
"I like this story. it was a good example of the kind of cooperative relationship I have developed with my colleagues. I enjoy being here, being a part of the work that we do here. I enjoy being treated as an equal, and having my thoughts considered when I make them known.
this is how it can be with animals. we have a lot of wisdom to share, for those who listen.
my human friends are worried about putting this blog out there too widely. they are worried what people will think, how it will affect the business.
I am not worried. I know what I know. this is a good thing. this is truth."
as always, thank you, millie.
being human, and rather caught up in our human-ness, we weren't very good about listening to her when she had something to say. in fact, it's a little embarrassing to look back on how dismissive we were when she offered her input. but one case changed all of that.
"I began to pay attention to the health of the animals who come here for diagnosis and treatment. I found that I frequently know what is wrong with them before my colleagues do.
one day, a woman came in with a very sick dog. the woman was extremely upset, another doctor had refused to run diagnostic tests that she requested, and was arrogant about and dismissive of her gut feeling about what was wrong with her dog.
our doctor examined the dog and was thinking the worst, cancer. the dog was very, very sick. but I knew it wasn't cancer, and I knew how that diagnosis would crush the woman, so I clawed at the exam room door until they let me in. I walked on the dog, so I could touch him with my paws and make sure that I was right before I said anything. then I turned to the doctor and told her it wasn't as bad as she thought."
this was a few years ago, before I started really trying to 'hear' millie at work. back then, when we knew millie had something to say we asked her questions and got yes or no answers via muscle testing. my talent for 'hearing' her came into play through knowing or guessing which questions to ask. here is how that conversation went:
millie, do you have something to say? (this is how we start every muscle-testing conversation with her, and it is a standing joke in the office now, as she makes it very clear when she has something to tell us.)
"yes."
is it about this dog?
"yes."
does he have cancer?
"no."
really!?!?
"no."
is he very sick?
"yes." (it was obvious that he was, but with muscle testing it's a good idea to throw in questions that you know the answers to along with the questions that you are looking for the answers to, in order to check to make sure you are getting accurate responses.)
is what he has treatable?
"yes."
is he going to die?
"no."
do we need to refer him for further diagnostics?
"yes."
millie was very sure that this dog did not have cancer and that what he had was treatable. we had played this kind of 20-questions game with millie before about patients that she indicated she had information about, but the difference with this case is that we took a leap and actually *told* the client that our cat said her dog could be treated.
wow. does that sound crazy, or what?
we believed, but hadn't actually discussed how or why we believed, that millie really did have a special talent when it came to understanding the inner workings of our patients.
we believed, but hadn't articulated, that we were getting good information when we asked millie questions.
without really thinking it through, or we probably never would have done it, we told this client that millie said her dog was going to be okay. both the doctor and I had our doubts about that. did I mention that this dog was really, really sick? the client was very relieved to hear what millie thought, even though we qualified it with 'we could be wrong's and 'this isn't scientifically sound's. she was in a much better frame of mind when she left the office than when she had arrived.
when we got the first referral report from the specialists, it said the xrays showed a large mass in the dog's lung. we were sure that confirmed our suspicion of cancer. the specialist thought so too, and they scheduled a surgery to biopsy the mass.
when we got the next referral report, it said the dog had a fungal infection, the mass had been removed successfully and he should be fine with long-term antibiotic therapy.
wow.
millie is sitting in front of me as I type this (good thing I've learned to type without looking) and she is purring.
"I like this story. it was a good example of the kind of cooperative relationship I have developed with my colleagues. I enjoy being here, being a part of the work that we do here. I enjoy being treated as an equal, and having my thoughts considered when I make them known.
this is how it can be with animals. we have a lot of wisdom to share, for those who listen.
my human friends are worried about putting this blog out there too widely. they are worried what people will think, how it will affect the business.
I am not worried. I know what I know. this is a good thing. this is truth."
as always, thank you, millie.
how millie came to be with us
when I walked in the door this morning, millie had more important things than blogging on her mind. but immediately *after* breakfast, she informed me that today's topic is her story. I told her ok, I will go ask the doctor to tell me the story again about how you came to her. millie just looked at me. oh, you want to tell your own story.
"yes."
okay. tell me.
"I was living with a troubled family. they stopped feeding me. I thought I might be walking away to die, it was cold and there were lots of coyotes and foxes. something guided me to walk in a certain direction though. when I got to the house, I was weak and starving and barely had the strength to crawl up on the front deck. I think I slept a little, then a man was walking toward me and he picked me up and put me in the house. it was warm inside. I had a vague impression of other animals in the house, but no one felt dangerous, so I slept. later the people came home and fed me. I slept and slept for days, waking up to eat. when I started to regain my strength, the other cats started asking me questions and pushing me to interact with them. I had no answers to their questions, and I had no practice dealing with other cats, so I told them to stay away. they were persistent, and I wasn't nice about telling them to leave me alone, I even suggested that they leave. this went on for a while.
I was content, the people were nice and I was getting plenty of good food. the other cats were not behaving well, they didn't like my attitude and they expressed their displeasure by peeing all over the house. this made the people unhappy.
one day, the doctor brought me here to the office. at first it was confusing, my sleep schedule was disrupted. I soon decided that I really like it here, I enjoy meeting the people and some of the animals. I still don't care for other cats, but I've learned to ignore them. none of them stay very long.
at some point, it dawned on me that my new home is a healing center. I am a healer, I have always been a healer. what a perfect place for me to be!"
"yes."
okay. tell me.
"I was living with a troubled family. they stopped feeding me. I thought I might be walking away to die, it was cold and there were lots of coyotes and foxes. something guided me to walk in a certain direction though. when I got to the house, I was weak and starving and barely had the strength to crawl up on the front deck. I think I slept a little, then a man was walking toward me and he picked me up and put me in the house. it was warm inside. I had a vague impression of other animals in the house, but no one felt dangerous, so I slept. later the people came home and fed me. I slept and slept for days, waking up to eat. when I started to regain my strength, the other cats started asking me questions and pushing me to interact with them. I had no answers to their questions, and I had no practice dealing with other cats, so I told them to stay away. they were persistent, and I wasn't nice about telling them to leave me alone, I even suggested that they leave. this went on for a while.
I was content, the people were nice and I was getting plenty of good food. the other cats were not behaving well, they didn't like my attitude and they expressed their displeasure by peeing all over the house. this made the people unhappy.
one day, the doctor brought me here to the office. at first it was confusing, my sleep schedule was disrupted. I soon decided that I really like it here, I enjoy meeting the people and some of the animals. I still don't care for other cats, but I've learned to ignore them. none of them stay very long.
at some point, it dawned on me that my new home is a healing center. I am a healer, I have always been a healer. what a perfect place for me to be!"
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