love each other

millie shows me a steel bear trap around a human heart.  the trap is made up of fear.  then she shows me a heart beating inside a locked wooden box (a la pirates of the caribbean).  that picture represents taking no risks, no chances, giving yourself no opportunity to be hurt.  but that also limits your opportunities to love and be loved.

"emotional pain is a picture you paint for yourself.  it is mainly about fear of pain, not the actual pain itself.  the fear is the thing you work so hard to avoid.


look at the fear.  name it.  trying to protect yourself from what you fear can push you into it.  if you are afraid of being alone, for instance, your efforts to hang on to someone may push them away, leaving you alone.  or you may push them away yourself, in the weird-human-logic way that you have -- 'if I cause the pain myself, it won't be so bad.'


look at the fear, get to know it, so it doesn't motivate you.  or if it does motivate you at least you are aware.


humans are meant to dance together in a joyous, exuberant dance.  not a few.  all of you.  dance in lightness and love.


look at everyone through love-colored glasses.  look past their behavior, look into their souls.  love them."

thank you, millie.